Marriage, once considered a vital milestone, is increasingly viewed with skepticism by Gen zs. The cohort born between the late 1990s and early 2010s is approaching adulthood amid economic instability, evolving social norms, and a digital culture that prioritizes individualism and personal growth.
One major factor is the prevalence of divorce and strained relationships witnessed during their upbringing.
Many Gen Zs have experienced the emotional fallout of broken homes leading to a perception of marriage as risky and unworthy.
Financial insecurity also plays a critical role with rising student debt, high cost of living, a not perfect job market, long-term financial commitments like weddings and shared assets seem overwhelming.
“I don’t think marriage is that important in this era. I have seen many millennial marriages breaking and that makes me not want to get married. Not anytime soon” Said Cynthia, a gen z buddie.
Moreover, Gen Z is redefining relationships placing greater emphasis on emotional health, autonomy and mutual respect over traditional roles or legal contracts.
The rise of cohabitation and “soft life” mindset reflects their preference for flexible, low-pressure relationship models.
“I don’t want commitments i just want to enjoy life come home anytime i want,no pressure from no one you know,besides kwa marriage saizi ni karibu sana you go there today kesho you’re back”.Added Cynthia
This shift does not necessarily reflect a rejection of love , but rather a reexamination of what those concepts mean in a modern context.
For Gen Z, the fear of marriage is not fear of connection; it’s a cautious, intentional approach to lifelong partnership.
by Charity Papai
